Some people have no one to off load with about how awful they feel. So it’s one of the functions of this site to enable people to do this. I agree that this is not in every bodies interest to read and I understand if they just skip by these posts. I personally would like to encourage people to have a moan if that is what they need to do. Having others empathise with how we feel can be a benefit. Hearing about the down side of this illness is part of the learning we can get from it. One idea about why some people cope better with adversity than others is that individuals have different levels of resilience. People get stuck in many areas of their lives. Coping with loss is a prime example, where people can be stuck for years unable to move on. The general idea of choosing to limit our exposure to negativity is fine, especially when we are in a bad place ourselves. I was saddened by some of the words used to describe some sorts of people who post. As if people choose to be negative, and not to change, ultimately there is truth in this in that we have to be responsible for our actions as individuals, but coping with a illness such as fibro is also very complex. Take care everyone.

I totally get it. It’s so very draining. I like being a ray of sunshine when I can, personally. It makes me feel better to help others feel better. Or at least hopefully make them smile 😊

Exactly Donna, just skip by the posts that might have a negative affect, but I’d rather people were not judged, because of where they are at and how they cope with fibro. Take care.

No your not selfish, sometime I feel down but I try to stay positive. I suppose some people think I'm too positive. But that's just me trying to cope. Do what works for you. Your young stay motivated and live your life as best you can. As we age We do slow up and get forgetful but everyone does. I call it old timers. Lol anyway take care.❤👍

Lynne when I was a counsellor I came across numerous clients who paid me but did not make change. There can be all sorts of reasons for this, often unconscious. The most obvious one is better the devil you know. Unconsciously people are so fearful of change that they stay in an uncomfortable position because it is familiar. Your explanation seems to be that the possibility of change is offered, but people choose to remain in misery simply for the pleasure they get from moaning. We also only offer advice Lynne. In our day to day lives we often choose not to follow the advice of others. The advice is a gift it is not obligatory that it is accepted. I don’t feel offended when most of the advice I offer is ignored, people take it or they don’t. Your right it is sad that people miss availing themselves of such opportunities. Maybe I am misreading the situation but what I perceive is that people are feeling anger rather than sadness towards people who are stuck in a negative position.